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This last lesson is a very import-
ant one to read carefully. Previous
lessons explained to you about your own
body's development, about sexuality,
and about the reproductive process. Now
it is important to see how all these
things fit together, and to understand
how they will affect your life.
As you are probably aware, 1most
people feel pleasure from physical
contact with people they love. This
can be a hug, a kiss, sexual contact or
sexual intercourse. This intimacy is
meant to be enjoyable for both people.
It is considered normal and healthy.]
Sometimes, however, one person
wants the contact and the other one
doesn't. When sexual contact is forced
on a person against his or her wishes
it is called sexual molestation. When
sexual intercourse is forced on some-
body it is called rape. 2Molestation
and rape are violent acts that are
immoral and illegal.] People who commit
these horrible acts are sometimes
called perverts (meaning they like
weird things).
3The lessons on staying safe that
you read previously focused on stran-
gers and how to avoid situations where
you might get kidnaped, raped or mo-
lested.] To quickly summarize:
a) Don't play or hang out alone
where there are no other people around.
b) Avoid getting in or near cars
with people you don't know (the stran-
ger behind the wheel may want to kidnap
or molest you).
c) Don't fall for the tricks of a
stranger (like accepting a ride or a
gift).
If you do fall for one of these
tricks, try your best to get away
quickly. Start by asking to be let go.
If the stranger refuses, scream and
yell to attract the attention of nearby
adults. If that doesn't work, kick,
punch, or fight your way free as best
you can. If you manage to get free,
remember: get to the nearest phone and
dial "0" or "911" -- call the police
for help.
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1Physical (including sexual) contact is
normal and healthy between adults (who
are usually married).
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2It might feel good to be molested.
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2I don't know how to avoid being sex-
ually attacked.
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The purpose of this lesson is to
make you aware that there are more
people in this world that might want to
hurt you (by raping or molesting you)
than you probably thought. In the ear-
lier lessons, we went into considerable
detail about avoiding strangers because
it is quite possible that they would
want to take advantage of you. We then
explained that even people you know
(relatives or friends of your parents)
just might be mentally ill (deviant)
and want to molest or rape you.
It turns out that 1as you get old-
er, the chances of these things hap-
pening to you does not decrease.] Un-
fortunately, 2many pre-teens, teen-
agers, and adults get raped by people
they know.]
Why does this happen? Good ques-
tion. The answer is not easy to ex-
plain. For the younger children it is
because they were not able to get away
from a sick stranger (or relative) who
took advantage of them. Earlier lessons
provided suggestions for avoiding situ-
ations that could lead to trouble and
we suggest you go back and read those
hints again if you have forgotten them
(They are in the STAYING SAFE lessons
for younger children).
3Teenagers and young adults who get
raped usually know the person who rapes
them.] Does that mean they like the
person and allowed it to happen? Defin-
itely not! People who get raped by
acquaintances (someone they know) were
usually careless about where and under
what conditions they were with that
person. We mentioned earlier about not
being alone, away from other people.
This is still very important to remem-
ber. Your older friends, or the friends
of your brother or sister, may seem
nice enough, but they could be one of
those sick deviants we talked about who
might attack you in certain circumstan-
ces.
As you get older, it becomes MORE
important than ever to remember those
tips about how to avoid trouble. Many
teenagers will find it difficult to
deal with the strange feelings that
accompany puberty. Being half-adult and
half-child is not easy, and causes
considerable confusion to most teen-
agers. The hormonal changes that you
and your friends will experience during
the next few years are substantial.
Even your best friends may act strange-
ly at times. That is why it is advis-
able to be with a bunch of people, not
alone with just your boyfriend or girl-
friend.
Never be ashamed to ask older peo-
ple for their opinions or advice. Some-
times you will follow it, and sometimes
you might not -- and that's OK!
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2As I get older, the chances of my
being sexually attacked will decrease.
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2Certainly a friend of mine wouldn't
rape or molest me.
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1Teenage girls and adult women some-
times get raped by their boyfriends.
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